Love Is Not Rude

Lorna FaulknerPosted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 by Lorna Faulkner

Have you ever had the kind of friend that shouts you down, speaking over you in conversation, having to be RIGHT, having to have their voice heard, not wanting to listen to someone else’s thoughts or views or feelings?

More to the point, have you ever been that kind of friend? I’m afraid I can answer ‘yes’ to both of those questions.

I have upset Christian friends and, disastrously, alienated friends who don’t know Jesus at all by being more concerned about saying my piece than I am about displaying the love that Jesus calls me to. I’m not proud of it. I hope I’m changing.

Jesus is the Creator of the universe. If anyone could claim to be RIGHT and know everything, it would surely be Him! He had a better way, though, when he was in disagreement with others. He listened, he asked questions, he told stories. He showed an altogether more respectful way of managing things. He chose not to be rude.

We have a choice, too. Paul’s letter to the Corinthians is fairly clear – love is not rude.

We can behave better than we do. We can choose to speak to one another with respect and kindness. We can choose to think before we speak (and save ourselves the need for an apology!) We can choose to deliberately try to see the other person’s point of view. We can understand – on purpose. Not because we agree with them, but because we love them! Jesus said that the world would know that we loved him by the way we love one another.

I’m asking Him to change me – will you?

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